You can dance very beautifully and still be hiding. Behind your partner, behind the learned forms and styles, behind stereotypes and imitations.

I WANT TO SEE YOU

And yes, I know, showing up is scary. I know this to the point that it took me more than a decade to get over it. But I also know that without showing yourself, you cannot dance the Tango.

WHY IS IT SCARY?

I think it has to do with the modesty of intimacy and the vulnerability of the ego.

When we show ourselves as we are, it is as if we were naked. As if our soul were naked. Of course, it brings our powerful being to light, but at the same time it exposes our humanity and emotionality, in other words, our vulnerability.

What if you don't like me? What if you take the opportunity to judge me or hurt me? This is our ego, concerned with the survival of our body and identity. But you cannot dance Tango, with a capital letter, from the ego.

And let's see... to calm that ego,​

HOW ABOUT if SHOWING us, IS DARE TO HAVE BRIGHT EYES?

To see and let ourselves been seen inside. Dare to share ourselves. Because this is the most precious thing we can offer to each others, our presence.
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Give us that space of intimacy, to listen to each other, get to know each other and look at each other. Let ourselves appear as we are. And this is precisely how the Chilean biologist, Humberto Maturana, defines love: Letting it appear.

And how do I let you appear? With my presence, I am here and now, for you. I offer you my full attention. I respect you, and I accept you.

Is there anything more valuable we can give to the person we love? Therefore, Maturana's definition of love makes a lot of sense to me.

THEN I ASK YOU, 

HOW CAN WE DANCE TANGO WITHOUT LOVE? WITHOUT LETTING US APPEAR AS WE ARE?

TRUST

Perhaps, in this word, lies the key to losing that fear.
And where do I find that confidence?

I think that, in the experience of overcoming those fears, one by one and little by little. Showing-you, seeing-you, accepting-you, and showing-me, seeing-me, accepting-me.

To learn to show yourself,

• you must learn to see
  
• understand what it means, and how, to be present
  
• Let your eyes get bright

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And on the path of that learning, is where I want to accompany you. 

BECAUSE I ALSO NEEDED:​

• a safe space
  
• the bright eyes of my Master,
  
• that permission/invitation to show myself
  
• And that constant challenge, murmured in the ear:
  I WANT TO SEE YOU, I want to see YOU.

TO REALIZE THAT:

• I didn't know how to show myself until I learned to see myself. Just then I discovered that in seeing myself, others began to see me.​

At that point, I started hearing feedback like this:

"I think that you gave me the first class, when I saw you dance at the milonga, and I saw that you were different from the rest. (difficult to explain). Let's say that I saw someone who lived tango as something that transcended it. And it was born to me the desire to be able to live it like this one day."

"Do you realize that you humanize bodies?"

"Seeing you dance is like seeing life and death, there is nothing else."
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"When we say that you are coming, it is as if we were saying that Tango itself is coming."

• That paradoxically, I no longer need anyone to see me, because I see myself.
  
• That now, that I can see myself, I can also see you.​​

I RECOGNIZE YOU, I SEE YOU, AND I CAN HELP YOU TO SEE YOURSELF TOO.​

How was my process, my hero's journey?
What I did, how I trained and what I needed.​

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